Let Your Mess Be Your Message!

by Karina Stephens

On a trip back to visit my parents I bumped into an old school friend. We hadn't seen each other for over 20 years and I was interested to find out what she had been up to. Over a coffee she proceeded to tell me that life hadn't really gone to plan. She was going through a rather messy divorce, had lost her mother to cancer less than a year ago and had major financial issues that were worrying her. She truly felt that she had wasted a lot of years with the wrong man and had given up a promising career in radio in order to raise a family. She was in the middle of a winter season and couldn't see a way out.

I truly believe that great things are birthed from great pain. Child birth is the perfect example of this. Not that I have experienced this personally and now at 40 I have no desire to rush out and try it just so that I can prove my theory. I did see my nephew being born and witnessed first hand my sister go from a loving feminine soon to be mother, to a demon with teretts syndrome and back again in the space of 9 hours.

The pages of life's history books are filled with stories of great overcomings. Ordinary human beings facing extraordinary circumstances and against all odds, coming out the victor and inspiring others in the process. This is what life is all about isn't it? Rising up against adversity, stretching and growing and transcending through life's levels.

Each level contains Universal Laws which are hidden behind our unconscious living and Egotistic States. As the eyes of our soul are opened up we 'remember' a life law revealed to us, waiting for us to finally 'get it' so that we can continue to progress through life living our purpose.

In the midst of our pain lies darkness, confusion and brokenness. The light only reaches our next step. There is no illumination on the future. No brightness to light the wilderness we are trekking through. Out steps are heavy with the weight of this yoke on our shoulders.

We've all been here or you might be here right now and we all will return again. For these are the Labour Pains of Life. There is no birth without them. Trying to numb the pain with drugs and alcohol only lengthens the gestation period.

But as with every birth comes a new life. A new beginning just as spring follows every winter, there is a rebirth. For this is the cycle of life. The old needs to die before the new can be born. Everything is as it is meant to be.

And just like the snake who sheds its skin we need to shed our old self so that our new enlightened self can shine forth. The snake does not carry its old skin around with it once it's shed. It leaves it and moves on.

Unfortunately a lot of us hold on to our pasts like excess baggage, cluttering up our hearts and minds and limiting our true potential. Baggage is classed as anything you can not say thank you for and just like the snake we need to leave it behind and move on.

Surviving the tough times and learning from them means that your mess becomes your message. It is a powerful philosophy for liberating yourself and empowering others to do the same.

About the Author

Karina has over 20 years experience in the health and well-being industry. She is a businesswoman and author, with a gift for creative communication. She is a presenter and speaker, focusing on unleashing potential in areas such as leadership, relationships, health, well-being and personal empowerment.Karina is also the author of two books and together with her husband Ian, they run an international speaking/training and development company. www.karinastephens.com